THE TATTOO JINX AND THREE OTHER REASONS TO AVOID GETTING A TATTOO TO COMMEMORATE YOUR LOVE AND COMMITMENT

Since the dawn of time, people in relationships have memorialized their love and commitment to each other by getting individual or couple tattoos. However, there are four compelling reasons to think twice before getting such a tattoo, including the tattoo jinx.

All of this is explored in my recent article in Your Tango magazine. You are going to want to read this article so that you do not end up saying "what was I inking?"

The Tattoo Jinx & 3 More Reasons To Avoid Getting Inked For Your Partner | Ronald Bavero | YourTango

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Why So Many Divorced Women Are Choosing "Mommunes" Over Single Parenthood

Sometimes in life, great challenges inspire novel solutions which prove not only positive and effective but also life-affirming. This is particularly true when it comes to the challenges which many women face in the aftermath of a divorce. The scope of one of the underlying problems faced by single moms is particularly devastating.

The United States has the world's highest rate of children living in single-parent households. 14.7 million children (one in five of all children in the US) live in households receiving child support or should be receiving child support. However, less than half of all child support that was due was paid. 30% of the custodial parents received no child support, and almost 26% received only a fraction of the support due to them. The average amount paid in child support was $287 per month, an amount of money wholly inadequate to sustain a single parent household. In a recent year, the total amount of unpaid child support in this country was more than 33 billion dollars. So, what is the answer to this immense problem?

Welcome to the Mommune. A commune is generally a group of people living together and sharing possessions, finances, and responsibilities. Similarly, a mommune is one or more mothers who have chosen to live together for economic and social benefits, including built-in childcare, companionship, and socialization for the parents and any children residing within the household. In my recent article, which was just published in Your Tango magazine, I explain how and why more and more single moms and their children are turning to this unique family construct, with amazing results. To read this important article, please click on the link below:

Why So Many Divorced Women Are Choosing 'Mommunes' Over Single Parenthood | Ronald Bavero | YourTango

**Ronald Bavero is a highly regarded divorce attorney, legal educator and author of the critically acclaimed, five-star book, “An Elephant Doesn’t Marry A Giraffe – Everything I Learned As A Divorce Attorney.” This book is available on Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Goodreads and Draft2Digital. He also maintains a website www.divorcedeverafter.com where you can find more information about his book and other interesting and valuable articles about the process of divorce and separation. Currently, he has now been invited to share his wisdom as a divorce expert on "Your Tango"

THE # 1 OVERLOOKED SIGN THAT A DIVORCE IS JUST AHEAD

Some signs of divorce are obvious and predictable, like the sign pictured above. You find telling photos, texts, voice messages on your spouse's phone, PDA or computer. Maybe your spouse is paying much more attention to their personal appearance or has been to the plastic surgeon. Inexplicably, your husband buys the convertible or the sailboat that he has always wanted. All of these are indeed storm clouds that cause people to take heed.

But one of the most telling signs that a divorce may be in the offing is not one that you would even think about, unless you are a divorce attorney or have been through your own divorce. Be very wary when your spouse says, "that it is time for you to go back to work."

I cannot tell you how many times in my divorce practice when the stay-at-home spouse, frequently the wife, mentions to me that her husband has been constantly telling her that it is "time to get a job." Often, a number of different rationales are offered by this spousal employment counsellor. "We could really use the extra money"; or "it would be good for your self-esteem"; or "the children are in school all day or old enough to take care of themselves"; or "we could use your salary to buy the things we always wanted or take that European vacation."

Indeed, some of these professed reasons may be very true and innocent but they may also signal a hidden agenda or motivation. Why? Because the spouse urging "re-employment" may have already decided to initiate a divorce and wants to ensure that he does not have to pay alimony and/or wants his unsuspecting wife to contribute to any child support awards. And how does he know that? Most likely, because he has already seen a divorce attorney in a consultation and received advice about how to limit his obligations or financial exposure to his soon-to-be jettisoned spouse.

As I have discovered in my divorce practice, the people who came to my office for a consultation fell into two broad categories. One was comprised of the people who knew they wanted a divorce and often said "it had been coming for years." They were there to gather information so that they could construct a detailed divorce plan one which minimized their financial obligations, before announcing their intentions to their spouse. The other group was made up of people who professed that they had little to no idea that a divorce was in the offing, said "they were shocked and blindsided," and claimed that the divorce "came out of nowhere."

In reality, the divorce announcement probably did not come "out of the blue" but rather the unsuspecting spouse had failed to read or recognize the clues that a divorce was just ahead. Sometimes, a conversation about downsizing ("this house is too big and too costly") or reducing spending (I just reduced our credit card limit) or re-employment (putting aside the misogynistic nature of the concept itself- i.e., the stay-at-home spouse doesn't actually work) has no hidden agenda. Still, when a spouse repeatedly hears one or more of these expressions it may be time to say how do I protect myself from a divorce that may be on the horizon?

One of the best ways to prepare yourself for a divorce, wanted or unwanted, is to read my recently released and critically acclaimed book, "An Elephant Doesn't Marry A Giraffe - Everything I Learned As A Divorce Attorney", available in hardcover, paperback and eBooks on Amazon , Barnes & Noble and Draft2Digital .

In this easy to read, compelling book you will find other invaluable tips, strategies and advice such as when to consult with a divorce attorney, how to select the best attorney for your case, how to minimize the costs of divorce, financially and emotionally, and how to avoid the critical errors that undermine your case. Reading this book now may be the most important thing you can do for yourself and your children.